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CONFIDENCE AND SELF CONFIDENCE
Did you know there is a difference between confidence and self-confidence? I used to think they were one and the same, but they most definitely are not. Confidence is something we get from our past. I was a professional photographer for nearly 10 years. I received awards, got featured in magazines and had many clients tell me how much they loved my work. I am very confident in my photography. Confidence in photography is something I have gained through experience.
Self-confidence is different. It pertains more to our future. It is being secure in ourselves and in our abilities. Self-confidence is the willingness to try something new even though we might fail, feel uncomfortable, or experience an emotion that we want to avoid.
We are constantly on a quest for personal development and self-confidence is an essential element to help us reach our potential. How do we gain more self-confidence? For some it may seem to come more easily, but it is a principle we all have to work to improve. Here are a few steps that can bolster our self-confidence.
TRUST
We have to learn to trust ourselves and deal with emotions that cause discomfort. We have to become dependable. We have to trust that we will do what we say we will do. When we exercise commitment and follow-through, it creates a sense of control and self-confidence. As you learn to be consistent in your word, the skill will be refined.
DISCOMFORT
The feeling of discomfort is inevitable. We often experience this feeling when we fail or have the fear of failing. If we can accept that this emotion is part of our reality and necessary for growth, it will serve us as we progress. We learn the most through failure and discomfort.
SELF OPINION
What you think of yourself is what generates or depletes self-confidence. A self-confident person is going to think they are deserving, capable, and worthy. They are going to think they are strong and competent. Self-confidence is a feeling that encourages action. When we think positive about ourselves these thoughts propel us forward.
Self-confidence is when we can believe in ourselves regardless of the results. Progress and action improve self-confidence. Do things that you are scared to do. Do them again and again and again. Learn to focus on your own opinion and not others. Don’t compare yourself to others and don’t let yourself be offended. Don’t live in fear. We only live once so go hard. You will know that you have self-confidence when have learned to embrace failure or the risk of failure. Whether you are working on self-confidence or modeling it, remember to trust yourself, embrace discomfort, and know that you are worthy.
