STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK

We spend so much of our lives worrying about what other people will think of us. Our kids misbehave, and we worry that others will view us as a “bad” mom.  We skip a social event and we assume that people will think we are rude.  We say what’s on our minds and are convinced we have offended. The list goes on and on and on. When we learn to stop caring what other people think, we will find empowerment. We gain the confidence to become who we want to be.

One of my favorite analogies is called “A Peach is A Peach.” It goes like this: You could be the sweetest, juiciest, tastiest, prettiest peach, but some people just don’t like peaches and you know what?  That’s okay.  If someone told us they didn’t like peaches would we constantly try to convince them that peaches are good?  Probably not, but we do that with ourselves! 

Do we often act in a way that we think will please or impress other people? We do this in an effort to convince them what to think.  We are seeking constant approval in our words and actions. The truth is some people just don’t like or agree with us. That is okay.  I could speak to a group of 100 women, fifty of them could agree with what I said and fifty of them could disagree. I know that I have no control over other people’s thoughts no matter what I do or say.  None.

With the right tools you can learn to believe and accept you have no control over what other people think.  Don’t get me wrong, it takes practice—LOTS of practice—but once you can accomplish this you will gain unbelievable freedom.  You will build confidence you didn’t know existed.  You will become the truest, most authentic version of yourself.  As this happens you will start to live a life that allows you to be and do things that will best serve you.  Your relationships will become deeper and more meaningful. You will be a better mother, wife, sister, or businesses woman and begin to spread your wings and accomplish your goals.